Creating pleasure everyday is all about simple shifts. I’m beginning to seek out ways in which I can infuse pleasure into my daily round. Fresh flowers for my bedroom is one of those ways. Yet, I have often made excuses: “Not enough space… the bedroom isn’t clean enough… the dogs are too rambunctious… etc.” Look at them, they look rambunctious, don’t they?
Well, let me tell you, the biggest block to creating a life you enjoy, is you. I know it, I’m right there with you, figuring this whole thing out. Learning how to get out of my own way. We’re told from morning to bedtime that there’s a world full of worry out there and we’re not doing our duty if we’re not talking, thinking, fretting and stewing, over it morning, noon, and night. Imagine if we make an effort to break that habit? What would you rather do with your time? What if you chose, actually deliberately decided, to do things that make you feel good instead? I don’t have any scientific evidence to back me up on this, but I’m still willing to bet that if we make a more consistent and deliberate effort to feel good, a lot of life’s worries and problems would resolve themselves. Even if they don’t, when you feel good and maintain as positive an outlook as possible, solutions have a way of becoming obvious. Life is kind of magic like that, you just have to be open to it.
So, it got me to thinking, “How would I like to spend my time?” And I should add that no matter the reason, this is a very worthwhile question to ask yourself. After all, the housekeeping/PTA/social obligations, will always be there, but that sunrise/your kids at this age/the once in a lifetime trip, will not. Living well, cultivating a life filled with pleasure, it’s a dance, a delicate balance. Funnily enough, discipline and boundaries are the key to freedom, but we can delve into that another time.
Right now, let’s just mull over what kinds of things we’d rather be doing. We might now be able to fit it all into every day, but I’m pretty sure we can add a few things, eh?
- Go for a stroll
- Read a book
- Try a new recipe
- Cuddle under a blanket and watch a funny movie
- Binge-watch “The Great British Baking Show”
- Brew a pot of tea to sip and savour
- Wander around a park, gallery, or museum
- Take myself out for lunch, or a nice coffee break
- Indulge in a nap -one of my weekend favourites!
- Have a facial or a massage
That’s just ten ideas, but they all sound far more pleasurable to me than tumbling down the rabbit hole into stinking thinking and worrying over the state of the world. Who knows, maybe part of the answer is islands of calm in the form of people who choose a pleasurable, happy existence no matter what.
I think that pleasure is a practice, even a skill. I can learn to frame my whole life differently if I choose so to do. And really, why wouldn’t I? At worst, I’ll become a happier, healthier, me. It might surprise the people who think they know me, but I’ll still recognize myself, and that’s better than good enough.